What is quirkyalone?

Quirkyalones are people who enjoy being single (but are not opposed to being in a relationship) and prefer being single to dating for the sake of being in a relationship. It’s a mindset. It’s about being present to possibilities in being deeply single or deeply in partnership. It’s also a mindset that recognizes the value of significant others, plural: friends.

Quirkyalone is not anti-love. It is pro-love. It is not anti-dating. It is anti-compulsory dating. We tend to be romantics. We prefer to be single rather than settle. In fact, the core of quirkyalone is the inability to settle. We spend a significant chunk of our lives single because we hold our relationships to a high standard; we actually enjoy single life too.

Are quirkyalones loners? Not necessarily. Quirkyalones value friendship highly. We’re a mix of extroversion and introversion, though some quirkyalones are more on the introvert side of the spectrum. We all need some solitude. Quirkyalones are often creative and need time alone to allow thoughts to fully form.

Fundamentally, quirkyalone isn’t so much about being alone as it is about connection: with yourself and others. It’s about liberating yourself from the expected road maps to discover your own. It’s about developing comfort with aloneness and recognizing that comfort is crucial to being with someone else.

The quirky in quirkyalone is really about authenticity. It’s about accepting yourself in all your quirky glory, and being fully yourself, whether you’re single or in a relationship.

The alone part is about willing to stand out from the crowd, to go to a wedding alone rather than go with a date, for example, out of social obligation. It’s about resisting the tyranny of coupledom, the prevailing notion that you must be in a relationship at all times in order to be happy.

It’s about preserving solitude in an era of hyperconnectivity so that you can be comfortable and full alone, and therefore fully present with another human being.

Quirkyalone is about:
- connection
- confidence
- being willing to go it alone and with friends rather than settling

Quirkyalone is not about:
- perpetual singlehood

From: http://quirkyalone.net.

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